Every once in a while
when you pull out
headphones from your ears
look past your screen
you see the person you love
playing in a nearby field with a thousand smiling planets
all in flower.
Even Kepler never dreamed of this.
Today, I saw a flailing angel stop his decent
despite the phantom pain where his wings used to be
with his hand rescue an earthworm from the asphalt
toss it on fresh dirt. He’ll be okay.
Happy Earthday!
Here are some of the amazing animals and wild places I’m grateful to have experienced and I’m grateful are out there.
It’s important to take a close look at what we’re doing or not doing, and how biodiversity enables us to lead very rich, wonderful lives.
I would put a picture of my friends and family here too if they were okay with that, since human beings are animals too.
And music is cross-species. Whales and indri indri and crickets sing. So do human beings. They striate too, and pluck at strings.
What’s it like to have a conversation with a friend where you feel like you learn something about your friend, you learn something about yourself, and you see the world in an entirely new way?
I’m grateful to have had a number of conversations like that. One was a conversation with one of my best friends, Andrew. We were in a forest, taking a well-earned moment to rest and talk, and watch our camp groups having fun on a low ropes course we had set up early that morning. The conversation was about how we can make life the best it can be while we are alive. It felt like more than just words, too, because we had just made something together. We had an idea for setting up our own low ropes course, and we made it happen, all in the span of a day. The conversation really changed the way I viewed what true friendship and sharing of dreams can do.
I just listened to a talk by a radio host named Celeste Headlee. She gives 9 tips for better conversations, but said that if you just take one and master it, it will make you a better conversationalist.
I’m doing one of those things right now. “If you want to pontificate, write a blog,” she said. She said that conversations are for listening, for a balance between talking and listening, for push-back and learning.
One other thing she mentioned is harder (for me, at least) to follow.
#6 “Don’t equate your experience with theirs.”
There is legitimate sharing. However, there’s a difference between sharing common experiences and sharing a big celebration or a big loss. In times like those, it’s best not butt in, equating your experience with theirs. Some times, it’s best just to listen, because, “It’s not the same, it is never the same.” And how are you going to understand their unique experience if you’re too busy trying to explain what you felt in a similar, but different, situation? There’s a time and place for the universal. Everyone suffers. And everyone’s situation is a little bit different.
This goes for teachers, too. I’ve heard it from a number of veteran teachers that the best thing to do with your students is to have a conversation.